I was super excited when first read the details regarding Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parentingon the Attachment Parenting website. Under the section for pregnancy and birth my husband and I would have received an A+ and I never even knew about their website until I got wind of this blogging carnival. Both my husband and I were very involved with the entire pregnancy, learning as much as we could, attending all the various classes, seminars and appointments we heard about. The last remaining item that we wanted to accomplish but were not able to was to attend an Infant CPR class. Thankfully we haven’t needed it yet and know that it is never too late to learn.
Well now that the hustle and bustle of the pregnancy and labor are over we spend our free moments (in-between diaper change, breast-feedings and playing) to really focus on the longevity of our parenting. What other exciting stages do we need to prepare for and how as a couple will we approach them. Here are the different topics to discus for preparing for parenting.
Continuously educate yourself about developmental stages: While we continue to read up the different stages a baby will go through and what milestones we have to look forward to, we acknowledge that our child is unique and will probably not fall into any cookie cutter time table. We use these guides as a resource of information as to what to expect, eventually and we rejoice and delight when we see each stage develop and what our baby grow.
Set realistic expectations for both parents and children:We discus often the different expectations that we have of our child as he grows and becomes more responsible (age appropriately). When it comes to playtime, freedoms, chores, curfews, schooling, discipline, my husband and I have come up with some guidelines that right now are flexible. We realize that each person is different and develops differently so we will need to watch and see how child develops before we can really determine how we should handle each situation.
Discuss concerns before they become crises: Thankfully we are fortunate to live around and be close to many other families with children around our son’s age and older. Through our interactions we have the privledge of being exposed to different concerns and situations before we have to face them ourselves. We are able to discus how if it was our situation how it would make us feel and how we think we would have reacted.
Remain flexible! Remain flexible! Remain flexible! Remain flexible!
Become educated about educational options:My husband and I have discussed several times what type of education experiences we would like for our child. Homeschooling has differently been a consideration but much more research needs to be done. I am not quite comfortable with the ideals of un-schooling. There is an excellent Christian school that I have been exposed to that is also a high consideration. We just know that we do want some sore of structure that includes all the basic elements including learning from hands on real life experiences.
Come to terms with your own childhood, seeking professional help if it involved abuse or neglect:We praise God each day that neither my husband or myself experienced any abuse or neglect for our parents or extended family members. There are always some emotional situations to deal with but thankfully going through the experience of having our son we were both able to bring out those painful situations and talk them out with each other. Since then we feel so liberated and free from it and more open and ready to ensure those pains are not repeated with our child.
This post is part of the 2010 API Principles of Parenting blog carnival, a series of monthly parenting blog carnivals, hosted by API Speaks. Learn more about attachment parenting by visiting the API website.