“The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.” – Dolly Parton
Life is full of surprises, pit falls, problems and failures, but it is how we handle these situations that builds our character and spirit. In life there are a few things that we can just expect to happen at one point or another:
- Life to be challenging.
- Life to be painful.
- Life to be daily and mundane.
- Problems to arise.
- Spiritual battles and attacks.
- People to be human.
No matter how much we try to build up the comfort zone around us with a shield of protection from the big mean world, something will slip in and get under our skin. Your job will be challenging, dealing with disrespectful children will be painful, your life may become very routine, your car may break down, your spirit may feel drained or unsteady and well people around you are just going to be human. All of these may seem out of your control and hard to manage when faced with the conflict. I remind you of all this this not to scare you or make you worry, but to comfort you in knowing that when these battles arise it is just another opportunity for you strengthen yourself and build up your character.
“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.” – Corrie Ten Boom
Like so many other other positive qualities, our determination can be cultivated, refined and increased. When fear of an the unchangeable and unstoppable obstacle strikes you, try to visualize breathing out this fear and breathing in determination and resolve. When we are in the inside of a challenge the problem can seem vast and large, unmanageable. With determination you can allow yourself to break down the larger problem into smaller tasks and tell yourself to just focus on getting the first smaller tasks done. Making the issue more manageable and easier to breathe.
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more wisely.” – Unknown
Many of us have something from our past that we feel we have failed at and have never truly let go of the situation. It could be your education, you were not able to finish the level they wanted, you were fired from a previous job, had a failed marriage (or two), your children don’t respect you, you name it, it can all cause a feeling of failure and inadequacy deep down. This un-relinquished pain can often affect our ability to meet a new challenge head on. We often increase obstacles with our own self-doubt. So what are you struggling with? What is paralyzing you? What is keeping you from moving forward? We all have things that keep up from moving forward in some part of our life. Take some time this week to truly reflect on your life and see if you have been missing out on what life has to offer because of your past encounters.
We should all try and increase our faith in ourselves and our ability to surpass the object in front of us. We need to learn how to look back at our past as merrily a lesson learned, see the good in everything that we did do, try not to make similarly mistakes, and realize that we all have the power within us to overcome any challenge. If we can stay cheerful when confronted with a problem, that automatically reduces the size of the problem.
“Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s when you’ve had everything to do, and you’ve done it.” – Margaret Thatcher
While we all have had obstacles, challenges and some failures, but we all also have achievements, accomplishments and successes along the way. It can help tremendously to focus on some of those success stories and how you felt empowered and strong afterwards and capture those emotions. Those emotions can give you the extra boost of confidence and strength when faced with a new challenge. Inspiration can be such an important factor in maintaining ones composer and strength during problems. Try to surround yourself with as much inspiration in the form of books, music and people as possible. And at the same time you can also be removing yourself from the influences that are discouraging you from reaching your goal and overcoming the challenge.
I hope something in the ramblings of my thoughts has made sense and given you hope to overcome your future challenges.